Mental Health & Psychology Guide

Are you a right-brainer or a left-brainer?

The greatest thinkers are at a loss when it comes to answering that question.

Just as we admire athletes who are able to hit a tennis ball or throw a javelin with either arm, we should emulate thinkers who engage fully in all kinds of activities without regard to whether or not it suits their specified brain orientation.

Labeling yourself as a certain kind of thinker is extremely limiting. Once we’ve established an idea about our preferences, we tend to veer in that direction every chance we get. We strengthen the image of ourselves as creative or analytical by repeatedly choosing activities that reinforce our concept of who we are. We forget about our infinite possibilities.

Perhaps you’ve had this very common dream: You’re roaming around your house and suddenly discover a whole room you never knew existed. The thrill of learning about this brand new space to explore, decorate, and enjoy is palpable–especially if you live in a smallish house with four teenagers, as I do! It’s disappointing to wake up and realize we don’t really have that extra room. We become resigned to staying within the known walls of our home.

We experience something similar when it comes to the “rooms” in our mind. We close off the math, computer, science, investing and research rooms. We seal the doorways to the painting, drawing, poetry, design and music rooms. We lock up entire wings, believing that we can’t really “go there”, and before we know it, we forget the spaces were there at all.

We all know people who amaze us with their seemingly disparate skills–an accountant who paints beautiful landscapes, a chemical engineer who writes daring poetry, a surgeon with a passion for songwriting. We find it surprising only because we’ve put people in boxes based on their work. It’s tempting to label ourselves and others according to our jobs, but one facet of our lives can never tell the whole story.

Be glad. Be very glad.

We love to see people making dramatic career changes in order to explore a newly discovered talent. It helps us believe that we have the potential to do something that will astound us.

Well, believe it. You are the one locking yourself into that mental image of yourself as a left-brain or right-brain person. The rest of us believe in your limitless talents, so why don’t you?

My hero, Leonardo Da Vinci, was fortunate that nobody pegged him early on as an accountant (he planned to become one, but alas, as an illegitimate child, he was not considered suitable for that career). It’s lucky for all of us that he ended up dabbling–in art, engineering, music, geology, and everything else he encountered. He was free to dive into many subjects because he never labeled himself as a certain type.

Keep in mind that thoughts become things. Whatever you tell yourself you can’t do, you won’t be able to do–either because you have convinced yourself you have no skill or because you never give yourself the opportunity to try. You’ve put deadbolts on your own doors!

Go seamless. Erase that line between left and right. Visualize wholeness and all that it implies. Stop with the labels, and start with the lessons, the rekindled interests, the tentative new directions.

Explore those rooms in your mind, and you’ll be on your way to becoming the fully integrated human you were born to be.

Now if only I could find that extra room in my house.

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Maya Talisman Frost is a mind masseuse. Her work has inspired thinkers in over 70 countries around the world. She serves up a satisfying blend of clarity, comfort and comic relief in her free weekly ezine, the Friday Mind Massage. To subscribe, visit http://www.massageyourmind.com.

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This article is about verbal way of quick and efficient change of visual submodalities. Master it and you will get a powerful linguistic tool of influence.

The idea came from curiosity, motivation and dissatisfaction connected with predicates I was learning about - this was never enough, just to know the words which belonged to visual, audio or kinesthetic systems; themselves they gave no possibility to influence someone and were maybe useful for getting some rapport.

So once a group of us - which included apart from me Adam Debowski and one anynomous friend - gathered and spent quite some time to discover verbal phrases which profoundly influenced submodalities. It also lead us to discover a bit more of what Richard has been doing for years during his seminars (like for example: Hold that thought!).

It was all about finding common, popular, every-day language “street” phrases, which could then be used on clients without their conscious awereness. Hence, their mental process would be influenced and their behaviors changed - all these by unnoticable change of submodalities.
Add sensory acuity and SMEAC`s to it and I believe you`ll be able to achieve a lot with this.

I prepared a list of Visual submodalities and gave each of them a set of phrases you can use. Audio and kinesthetics will be presented some time later.

Bear in mind English is my second language - I`m sure there`s much more to dicover.

Dissociation - you know, I understand you, I went through this myself once. But later I looked at myself from the side and stopped. Do you see what you are doing? Just look at yourself. And what, does Bill (his name is Bill) like it? Just look at us - we`re sitting here and chatting, just think what it would be like if you yourself were in this situation.

Using your client`s name while talking to them is probably the most common conversational technique I use to dissociate them. Does Reader of this text see it?Smile

Association - wait, see this from your perspective - isn`t that different? Look through your eyes, now enter this picture and what it`s like, when you are in this situation? what do you think about it? Enjoy the moment and identify even more with it, when you see it with your own eyes.

Film - wow, when you are talking about this I feel it`s like a movie! All thoughts move, man, slow down! Or maybe accelerate! You need more movement in this, you see..

Come back! Reverse to the very beginning! And now move till the end. Step back a bit, it`s ok. And move on fast!

The above piece, starting with come is to me a masterpiece of therapeutic intervention - fast phobia cure. You can start with how you were in the cinema, you insert the above conversationally and without any conscious awereness phobia will be gone. We really enjoyed using this o phobics, since people are absolutely shocked that they don`t feel old fears anymore and don`t know how come!

Slide - when you think about this, you know what, wait for a second. I sometimes say to myself: stop, hold still, and pause for a while. As if you freeze it - steady vision.

When we did slide submodality, we were shocked to discover how Richards`s “hold that thought” works; he used it so many times and consciously poeple don`t know what it does to pictures and kinestethics.

Big - since when I came here, all the time my curiosity is growing. I want you to enlarge yours as well, see the great size of opportunities. Widden your vision and make it big, so that you see all. Widespread all of it. You know what it`s like when you have panoramic views and enlarge on them?

Small - Eeeeee, what kind of problems, they seem tiny to me. Make sure you don`t dwindle / drop away / decrease / wane / grow less / diminish / lessen / reduce / abate / lighten / relieve / extenuate / decrease / halve them. Don`t narrow them! Then everything gets smaller and shrinks. Yeah, big as sand grain.

Far - those ideas, yeah, away with them! Behind the horizon, far away from here. Move them further.. I know they seem to run away by themselves. It`s good to have them behind yourself. Then we`ll see what`s next.

Close - it`s all because these ideas are coming to you. Hear (ambuity with here) them? New options arise, you have them in front of you! Get them closer, these are good things. This is a great one, really. First focus well, then just the best one. Now!

Obviously, what has been already discovered, there`s a huge difference between this/these and that/those - important to be remembered and used effectively.

Shape - listen pal, why don`t you make a nice, panoramic movie. No, not this way, think about it a bit longer, widden your vision! Yeah, that`s a nice picture. Get round to it!

Basically we found panoramic and square pictures to be the most useful, so didn`t focus on other shapes.

Borders - all right put into a different frame - sure, bigger, why smaller? I know, I know, there are some limitations and borders which shouldn`t be crossed, but make sure you do it differently.

Important notice - panoramic pictures by nature are not bordered, so people can`t get “framed” or “limited” in any way - that`s why it`s crucial to suggest this to them.

Position - put it aside, why to have it in front of your eyes? Isn`t it better to have it behind? Move across this problem and see how you pretend you can notice it..

Last sentence is a good one - makes problem small enough they can cross over it, dissociates them when they see how they are pretending
they can notice it; when they try again to associate with it, it will be an attempt in vain.

3D - see the depth of the situation, yeah, look deeper. It`s profound, right? What do you see in it?

2D - see this picture, what`s there?

Now, in Polish you can say both “on” and “in” the picture - I guess “on the picture” is a mistake in English, but saying “on” automatically makes images flat and “in” gives them 3D.

Colors - no way, this is like black and white to me! No, it`s not colourful, but grey! How am I suppose to see it in warm colors? It`s so pale, all this.

Contrast - Tell me once more, I want to see it clearly. All seems so blurred. Almost invisible, shapeless. Just blank.

Bright- wait, brighten it to me, I want to see it in better light. Enlighten me! Make it serene / fair / lucid / plain / obvious / definite / bare / light.

Dark - it seems so dim / gloomy / sombre / somber / murky / deep / black / dull / shady / wan / muddy / burnt / brown / unenlightened / ignorant / unlettered / letterless / obscure / opaque / doubtful / abstruse / screwy / dubious / blur / problematic / dusky

Number of images - put these two aside, these are two different things. Let`s set the priorities which one goes first. Start with … then… and finally… Let`s deal with them seperately. You can`t combine them!

An now my version of torpedo therapy, not for the faint - hearted. Make sure you consciously follow submodalities change.

Pal, just f… it, how long can you go through the roof because of that? I don`t give a shit, come down, don`t live with your head in the clouds! This all spins and turns upside down and my pictures are inside out..

I used it once with a client with a “serious” problem and after a few sentences they just couldn`t come back to the old way of seeing things.

Enjoy and develop.

Mateusz Grzesiak, NLP Poland
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